what to do when you feel like you’re not enough.

Let’s be really raw and vulnerable here — it’s a rainy, gloomy day and I sitting in my unmade bed, with my hair in a messy braid, two nails missing, my skin breaking out on my legs and fingers like no other and…

just. not. feeling. it.

As I was journaling and sitting with these emotions, I wrote out…

“I just don’t feel good enough.”

This is a core story of mine, and one that has led me to where I am today, teaching, talking, and writing on being an empowered woman who owns the room with her presence and elevates others just with her energy.

A year ago, two years ago, these feelings of not being enough would have sent me down a spiral of avoiding the work, eating foods not good for me, and just…wallowing.

It’s human, and it’s real.

The thing is, even the most confident, empowered, driven, successful people all struggle with these feelings.

It’s learning how to move through them that is the key. And here I am, writing to you, instead of my initial reaction which was to mope lol. (there is nothing wrong with wallowing in your feelings btw).

What I am trying to get at is…I am learning how to work with these feelings. How to give myself space to accept them without it leading to self-sabotage or things that AREN’T supportive for me.

How I moved through this and am here typing to you now…

I shifted into who I know I am — my true self, my inner state. The perception you hold of yourself is the most important view there could ever be.

Shifting into how I would my inner, truest self handle this. And here is what came through…

“As the spiritual diva, I recognize I’m in my feelings. I give myself space to feel them…

And continue forward anyway. To believe in myself. To dig even deeper into that foundation.

Lean in even further, immerse myself in who I truly am. I know these are just feelings and not meaning anything about me or have any truth.”

Feelings feel real — they can get really loud and convince you that you’re not enough.

As a certain and assured woman, you get to recognize them and call them out. You get to practice acceptance and invite them along with you.

You get to say “Okay, I know I feel this way, but I get to continue forward and take care of myself along the way. I get to know this isn’t my truth, and these feelings will pass.”

Feelings are not permanent. This is why the foundation of who you are and how you perceive yourself is so important.

The stronger and more powerful your core image of who you are is, the easier it is to move through these challenges. The more resilient you become, and you are grounded in your truth.

You know yourself deeply on an intimate level, in a way no one could ever understand. Because of this knowingness, you get to see what’s happening around you, within you, and know it’s not your truth and doesn’t actually mean anything.

I really need you to get this and understand this.

Your view of yourself is the priority. It is the single most important thing you could ever focus on and work on healing.

There is a certain inner peace that comes with being able to invite your feelings and limiting beliefs along with you for the ride.

Eventually they fall away while you press forward.

If you were already the most present, grounded, empowered woman you see yourself to be…

How would she approach this situation?

What would she think, say, do, and feel?

What do you need right now in order to move through this? (feeling your feelings, a nap, a nice meal, etc.)

These questions help me move through this and it’s a shift that takes practice, but as with everything…

The easier it gets, the better it gets.

Does this help? Let me know what you think!