why confidence never seems to stick.

In our quest to become empowered in our beings and fully embody the women we have always been, always meant to be… often what we create doesn’t stick.

Because in our quest to grow, to be empowered, to be queens, confident, own the room and elevate our energy, it usually comes from a place of not being enough.

That we lack something, that we need to attain something in order to be IT.

It’s looking at the parts of us we don’t like and telling those parts “You’re not enough, you need to be better.” Which…is why confidence feels so hard to obtain. Your attention is pointed towards lack, towards criticism, as if there’s something to “fix”.

When confidence is grown and cultivated from a place of love, acceptance, and being grateful for the woman you are right now as you read this.

This version…this woman you are today…

She kept going, she’s a fighter, she’s a survivor.

She weathered the storms life brought her way, and also the storms of self-loathing and criticism from yourself. From the thoughts saying she wasn’t good enough, if only she had acted this way, if only she had looked this way…

She survived that. She got you through those moments. She also helped you achieve all of your greatest moments — the moments where you accomplished your goals, laughing with your friends, having the time of your life, experiencing life in itself.

She did that. You did that.

She chose to keep going on the darkest of days, to see her own beauty when everything in her was fighting against that and telling her otherwise. She believed in herself and held on to those small threads of belief…

She rose up. She decided to rise.

She decided to heal and face the hard sh*t.

She chose to love fearlessly, not only herself, but those around her.

In the fear, the rage, the anger, the uncertainty, she found a way to practice compassion and see things through love versus fear, no matter how long it took her.

She is here reading this post now, knowing what a bad ass, strong, brave woman she is and still choosing to find ways to grow and love herself.

Each day she wakes up with the intention for it to a great day, to share her heart, to be herself fully, and to try to be better and better.

The things that you’ve hated, that even I have hated about myself, well..it’s kept us safe.

Helped us survive. Gotten us through and to where we are today. The defense mechanisms, the criticism, the judgement, the things we are told to hide from the world — all it has been is to keep us safe.

And now…we get to choose to say thank you.

Thank you to this version of you, this level of you, this woman you are, for all she’s done to get you here.

She’s like an old friend that has been here with you through it all, and now your time with her is complete.

Envision yourself saying thank you to her — thank you with your whole heart. For all she’s done, all she’s weathered, and that she still continues to shine.

Tell her thank you, give her a hug, and let her know you are ready for the next chapter.

And…you get to allow it all to fall away.

The shoulds, the coulds, the criticism — all of it gets to fall away.

Because you are a powerful f*cking woman. And you get to decide how life gets to go for you.

It gets to fall away, it gets to continue to build, to grow, and you get to be who you’ve always been and always dreamed of being.

So thank her, appreciate her, love her hard AF, and know she’s cheering you on as you step into continuous expansion.

That’s how it gets to be. That’s how confidence is grown — from a place of love, acceptance, and recognizing what an incredible woman you have always been and will continue to be.

xoxo,

blake.